Wednesday, July 31, 2013

Delusions are different from illusions, continued


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I find this topic extremely interesting. A delusional person might come across authentically because, with this mental illness, this person truly believes the false pretense. I'm not sure but I would imagine he or she could probably pass a lie detecter because they do not think this thinking is faulty.

As the article communicates, delusions are quite different from illusions because one is tied to beliefs (delusions) and the other is based on sensory perceptions (illusions).

I used to love those old posters that were filled with patterns and after looking at them for a while a shape or animal would surface. It is mind-boggling how images can be distorted. In a way, this is like the distorted image someone might see who is delusional when they look in the mirror. For example, someone suffering a Bulimic illness, and may look skinny like a skeleton, will see an overweight self image in the mirror. This is the power of the psyche and mental health.

It is important to keep yourself healthy and in check.

Do you know anyone who is delusional? Drop me a note and comment.

Sunday, July 28, 2013

Fantasy dating, continued...



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Suzanne continued the interview.

She talked about her path to transition, “Beyond family and friends, social media has been an incredible support system. I have met people on Twitter who have tutored me on how it works. I have met other entrepreneurs and co-promoted with them and started friendships. People have been amazingly supportive.

I am happy to share my experiences with you and your audience. A few months ago, examiner.com gave Fantasy Dating a five star review!


If you would like to utilize Suzanne’s services, email her or check out her website:

suzanne@fantasydatinggame.com

Saturday, July 27, 2013

Dreams and health continued...


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What are you dreaming? I dream every night and remember my dreams most of the time. I did dream journals for years and I'm sure this has helped. Every week I used to interpret the symbols in my dreams. I am always amazed how these puzzle pieces fit so cohesively with my waking life situations even though, at a first look, they seem like Alice in Wonderland type of stuff.

If you are suffering trauma and you can't figure out how to move forward, start with your dreams. My sleeping mind has been a tremendous help in healing me after divorce and much loss. Next to a wonderful support of loved ones, my faith, my art, my exercise, my dreams are in my top 5 tools for coping and success.

Face these monsters, they are there to help you not to traumatize you. Figure out what they represent. Just by this interpretation process, you will gain momentum to move forward.

Leave me a note and let me know if this helped you like it has helped me!

Thursday, July 25, 2013

The miracle question, continued...



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When things feel upside, go with your instinct and implement change!
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Here is a sample dialogue from Solutions focused.net offering an example of the Miracle Question:

C:  "I suppose I will feel like getting up and facing the day, instead of wanting to cover my head under the blanket and just hide there.
T:  Suppose you do, get up and face the day, what would be the small thing you would do that you didn’t do this morning?
C:  I suppose I will say good morning to my kids in a cheerful voice, instead of screaming at them like I do now.
T:  What would your children do in response to your cheerful “good morning?”
C:  They will be surprised at first to hear me talk to them in a cheerful voice, and then they will calm down, be relaxed.  God, it’s been a long time that happened.    
T:   So, what would you do then that you did not do this morning?
C:   I will crack a joke and put them in a better mood."

Most of the time the client who is in therapy actually has the solution to his or her problem and the therapist just helps this individual gain perspective. The miracle question is a great way to do this.

What is holding you back? Try the Miracle Question, it just might work!

Monday, July 22, 2013

Career transition, continued...

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Vannessa Wade continued the interview.

Her current role, “President - Connect The Dots PR. I help organizations create and increase awareness of their product or service. By crafting messages that resonate with potential customers, my clients are able to enhance the community, increase visibility and ultimately increase their bottom line. In other words, I help my clients get publicity. My hope is to continue providing quality and favorable PR results and grow.  Our success has come from fusing traditional PR with technology and listening to our clients. No two clients are alike- and we embrace that! We understand that each client has certain needs and we eat, sleep and breathe PR, so our clients trust us to look out for them. Yes some days are more demanding than others, but that is what keeps the business thriving. I love the energy and I love seeing results. I certainly love seeing my clients excited about progress.  It is my goal to ensure positive messages and be heard near and far on behalf of the companies I represent.
Currently, I am putting the finishing touches on a new Public Relations Workshop aimed at helping companies understand the value of using PR.

My advice is to make the leap. Start each day mapping out what you need to do to be successful and run towards it. Build solid relationships. Voice what you need and watch doors start to open, even if it is slow at first. I believe my strength comes from life challenges and learning that I can't stop things from happening, but I can certainly have a good attitude. It is not always easy to cross hurdles, but it is possible.”

If you would like to learn more about Vannessa and her work, you may email her at, vannessa@connectthedotspr.com or explore her website, www.connectthedotspr.com.

Sunday, July 21, 2013

Life skills, continued...


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4.   Employability Skills, job skills to be hired and maintain work, ability to get to work, understanding of how to get work, skills for resume creation, understanding of appropriate dress code, ability to interview successfully, timeliness of work and arrival/departure timing, reliability to be counted on, comprehension of when to ask questions, initiative to take on new responsibilities, ability to supervise, customer service skills, sales skills, self promotions skills, good communication skills, leadership ability and strategic planning skills.
5.   Friendship/Intimacy Skills, investing in others, getting to know others, connecting emotionally, connecting intimately, ability to initiate and reciprocate dating roles, meeting commitments, understanding lifelong responsibilities and supporting others.
6.   Learning/Education Skills, reading, writing and arithmetic, comprehension, good written and verbal communication, analytical skills, memory retention, motivation to learn, research know how, note=taking ability, organizational skills, technological skills and mentoring ability.
7.   Life Planning Skills, ability to prioritize, goal-setting skills and planning.
8.   Self Management Skills, understanding and management of physical, mental and spiritual health, self care during illness, follow through, temper management, humanitarian efforts, forgiveness, ability to process emotions, ownership of good values, faith, loyalty, balance, understanding of respect for self and others, and ultimately knowing of a higher power and need of prayer.
Usually with maturity and experience life skills are developed. When you do wrong and you realize it, you learn to do better next time.
The younger you are, the more likely you’ll mess up because you haven’t gained the life skills to fully access your decisions prior to the action. Although, many adults continue to make the same bad decisions because he or she has not taken responsibility for their self and without ownership of one’s actions, you do not learn the lesson.
Mudrashram.com communicates, “Digging Your Self Out of the Rut and Moving Forward with Your Life…
Now that you know what needs work, you can begin today. Identify which of these skills you need to learn and start to acquire them. Here some ideas:

Environmental Skills - (now you understand why your parents kept giving you chores that you resented and hated—it was to prepare you to function independently) find a friend who knows how to do these tasks and ask them for advice. Ask or pay a friend to do them, and watch him or her so you can learn how to do it. Assist your parents, friends or relatives with cleaning and other environmental tasks with an aim to learn how to do them. Read books in the library on how to clean, how to cook, and how to do basic repairs. Additional information is available on these topics on the Internet. You can also volunteer or do paid work with a carpenter, electrician, plumber or auto mechanic to learn some of these skills.
Financial Skills - take classes on economics, the law, accounting, and personal financial planning. Read books on these subjects and go to seminars. Consult with an attorney, lawyer, accountant, stockbroker, or personal financial planner as is appropriate for your situation to help make sound financial and legal decisions. Study business administration in college.
Social/Civic Skills - take a Social Skills training course (Job Corps has this—if you're 16 to 24, you can learn these skills), an assertiveness training course, or human development courses at college. Associate with people who are polite, have good manners, and speak in a respectful and civil way (you may find this will rub off on you and that you can act this way too if you wish). Read books on etiquette. Educate yourself about community and political issues by watching the news. Volunteer in your community. Get involved in your political party, register to vote, and attend community forums.
Employability Skills - Enroll in vocational classes while you are in high school or college to learn skills that will help you get and find a job. There are programs available from your school district, your local Work Source Center, and Federal programs like Job Corps that will help train you for a career and will teach you many of the employability skills. You can also enroll in private vocational training programs. If you have been disabled, you can obtain assistance from your State Vocational Rehabilitation Department. Obtain a job, or a volunteer or intern position to gain valuable work experience. You may be able to learn to drive through your school district, or you can pay for private lessons.
Friendship/Intimacy Skills - you can learn to develop many of these skills by finding a mentor, someone who can model for you how to be a compassionate, considerate, and caring human being. A mentor can be a relative, a wise friend, a co-worker, a teacher, or someone who is a member of your religious faith. You may need counseling or psychotherapy to undo some of the wreckage of your own past, but even deep scars can heal, and you can begin to retrace your way. People can find guidance in this area from self-help groups, and there are recovery groups to assist you if your friendship/intimacy skills have been warped by an addiction. There are also good books on this topic. Your school or college counselor has resources in this area, too.
Learning/Education Skills - Here your school or college counselor has many resources. If you have problems learning a subject, your school can develop a special program for you to help you succeed in this learning skill. There are many good resources available through your library on how to study, and also on-line on the Internet. Make friends with a good student and study with them—you'll learn a lot on how to be a better, more successful student.
Life Planning Skills - You can learn to set goals and plans. There are resource materials available from your school counselor and at your public library. There are private programs that teach life planning skills, like Success Motivation Institute. You can also learn about goal setting and planning on-line on the Internet. You can learn how to do a personal inventory like this one and begin to make changes in areas you want to improve.
Self-Management Skills - This is also an area where a good mentor is invaluable and indispensable. You can obtain counseling or therapy to help you work out issues with anger, grief, resentment, and dysfunctional styles of relating to others. You can learn about caring for your health, diet, and exercise. You can learn how to relax and calm yourself—there are tapes available. There are programs to teach you how to cope with stress. There are yoga and meditation groups, and classes available through your religious organization that teach ways for you to control your reaction to stressful life events.”