Thursday, January 31, 2013

Source of influence, continued...

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As of late, I’ve been studying influence and things that shape us, in my Lifespan Psychology class.  We had to write a paper that discussed what, from our childhood, has shaped us today. Below is an insert from my paper:

“As a young adult, I had to recognize and own my temper in order to manage it and avoid repeating the aggressive nature my father displayed most evenings when he came home drunk. Because my dad picked inappropriate fights with my mom almost daily and she coped with this, subconsciously, I absorbed this type of bullying tactic.  Although I never stuck my ex-husband, I was verbally abusive (as was he) and I threw things, like my father did, when we argued.  I inadvertently tainted the balance of our partnership in an effort to make sure I was not viewed as submissive.  I also, unknowingly, chose an alcoholic partner.  I was able to take ownership of my negative behavior, dig into its origin and positively change my negative actions before I had my children. I realized also that I had to stop enabling my husband’s drinking problem and therefore after his refusal of treatment, we divorced.

I was fortunate that my father actually found religion while I was in middle school.  He replaced his drinking addiction with God and this, in turn, gifted our family with a healthier environment from that point forward.  Although I rebelled with drugs and alcohol during my early adolescent years, I matured quickly and reached for a brighter future.”

I think about the affect of these years and, if I wouldn’t have gotten a handle on my temper or I had got lost and stuck in this “partying” crowd, my world would be dark today. I’m grateful for my path, it has taught (and continues to teach) me critical life lessons. I’m hopeful, by sharing what I learn and my experiences, I can inspire someone else to move through the darkness and to step into the light!

Sunday, January 27, 2013

Belief in a higher power, continued...

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Susanne Alexander-Heaton continued the interview.

She talked about her writing experience, “I never in a million years would have thought the word author and my name would appear on the same line. My book was inspired and dedicated to my friend’s 12-year-old daughter, Sarah, who passed away from a very rare brain tumor. Sarah came to me in a dream the night after she passed away. She was back to her giggly, mischievous old self and twirling around in a meadow filled with wildflowers and she said to me, ‘Susanne, I have faery wings instead of angel wings, because faery wings are so much easier to run and play around in.’ This dream forever changed my destiny.” 

She continued, “I started to research everything that I could about faeries and I found out two things: 1. They are considered nature’s angels and 2. They are a wee bit mischievous! A few years later, while on a sea-kayaking trip totally immersed in nature, the whole idea for the book came streaming in. I literally could not write the ideas down quick enough. I had the initial draft of the book ½ written during the 10-day trip. I returned back to Calgary totally dumbfounded by the entire experience." 

Susanne discussed her exhaustion, “At that time, I was also working in my corporate job. Management changed and I ended up doing two jobs, which resulted in my burnout in June 2008. I ended up needing to take a leave of absence for my health. During that time, my father who had been suffering from chronic leukemia was continually getting worse and the doctors could not determine why. The bottom line was that they had missed a six-inch cancerous tumor on his liver and he was given only three months to live. During this time we had some heart to heart conversations. At one point he looked at me and said, ‘Susanne, get yourself out of that corporate job, and go and focus on your book.’ If you had known my father, you would realize just how shocking it was to hear him say these words.  He had always been so proud of my accomplishments and believed in giving everything you could to your company. Dad passed January 20, 2009.  I announced my resignation to work effective March 15, 2009 and I have never looked back. I continued working on the book and hired an amazing illustrator by the name of Chantal Gabriell from Seashine Design who helped to make each and every faery come to life. I considered going the traditional publisher route, but I discovered that they could change absolutely everything about the book.  Because the book was so close to my heart, I didn’t want that to happen, so I decided to self-publish. I received many positive reviews on the manuscript. Then just one month prior to going to the presses, I had a Best-Selling Canadian Author agree to review my book. I was so excited, until I received her response, which was, ‘I cannot review this book. It is not my cup of tea. It is too Hallmarky. You are not saying anything new.  If you want some really good poetry, read Dennis Lee’s Alligator Pie.’  I was totally devastated. The inner critic in my mind went wild with this information asking me, ‘Who do you think you are, really?’ I finally decided to muster up the courage to go to the library and read Alligator Pie. I had read it to my brothers when I was younger, but I couldn’t remember everything that was in it. When I found the book and read the first poem, I burst into laughter. I realized that this Best-Selling Canadian author had no idea of what I was trying to say. It ended up that she gave me the greatest gift that anyone could have given me. Not everyone is going to like my work, just like not everyone likes the same music, movies...or books. You have to learn not to take it personally and write for those that truly understand the message you are trying to convey. If I had listened to her, I would not have published this book which is now an award winner many times over and has helped to raise over $20,000 for worthy causes. Awards won include:
-Winner of the 2011 USA Best Book Books Awards for Inspirational Poetry
- Award-Winning Finalist in the 2011 Global e-Book Awards
- Award-Winning Finalist in the Best Interior Design, Children's Educational and Children's Mind/Body/Spirit categories of the 2011 International Book Awards
- Nominee for the Alberta 2010 Best Book of the Year Award for Children by the Book Publishers of Alberta
- Bronze Medal for cover design in the 2010 Summit Awards, Artwork by Chantal T. Gabriell, Seashine Design”

She shared her journey through hardship, “My rock bottom was dealing with my father’s death. We had kept him at our family home until his passing, so watching his slow decline was painful because he had always been such a proud man. When he passed, I wanted the earth to stop spinning, just for one minute, to acknowledge my pain and loss. But it didn’t. Everything just kept on moving right along. I had thought I had really understood when other friends of mine had lost their parents, but I realized then, that you couldn’t know the full depths of grief until a similar situation has happened to you. Certain friends I had expected to be there for me, just plain and simple, were not. Others that I never would have expected to were there. I ended up finding a grief support group and that was so incredibly healing. It was really good to know that I was not alone in my thoughts, feelings and frustrations. It is like you become part of a secret society that totally understands one another. My dad sends me plenty of signs from nature and I know that he is one of my angels looking out for me, but there are times that I would just love to be able to have a chat with him on this earth plane. He had always been a man of great wisdom and support and there are times in this business venture that I would love to be able to bounce things off of him.”

Susanne found out that with hardship comes education,

“The lessons I learned:
1. Don’t wait till later to do something that you really want to do, because later may never come.
2. Take time to be with your loved one and be willing to talk about their death with them. They try to be so strong for everyone else, but deep inside, they need some comfort from you.
3. Don’t assume that people understand your grief, especially if they have not been through a similar experience. Seek out a grief support group if it feels like the right thing for you. All people grieve differently.
4. That many signs are given to us, if we are willing to watch or listen for them from our loved ones that have passed.”

She closed with this inspirational quote, “I love this quote by Walt Disney, ‘All your dreams can come true if you have the courage to pursue them.’ Please pursue your dreams now, and don't wait till later.”

Susanne’s contact information:
Twitter: abcfaeries

Friday, January 25, 2013

Energy is valuable, continued...

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I am forever trying to embrace and release, into the universe, positive and uplifting energy. I've already shared that, as of late, I've been a bit low. Perhaps my body is screaming, stop and recover. I came out of last year healing from a rough spell both emotionally and physically after I lost my cat late November. I spent several weeks, in December, hurting from a bronchial virus.

Then, the first week of January, I fell. YIKES.

I still continue to work out and I'm still trying to manage nutritional intake. I'm stretching everyday but I'm sacrificing sleep as my routine changes. I'm working to get my sleep back up to par and to get my meditation back on track. In a good week, I'm meditating daily. In a bad week, I'm lucky to get one session.

So, if you're feeling like you've lost your energy, take a look at the list link in the article for ideas to get it back. There are some unique ones!

If you have any idea's you can add to the energy boosting list, post them for everyone to read!

Soothe your winter anxieties, continued...

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I’m hopeful that you are all riding the wave of change and inspiration as you move forward through the close of January, 2013.  But, if you seem to be dipping a bit into the tranches, as I’ve been feeling, I thought this article might boost both of our spirits.

It seems like I’ve been fighting my body and depriving myself of necessary sleep. I really do know better but with change in routines, sometimes structure seems to crumble a bit until the ground firms as control is taken back. I’ll get back on track but, in the meanwhile, a bit of advice about sharing with friends, soothing tea, healthy stretches and sleep certainly can’t hurt!

Let’s take care of ourselves, we need our health to live fully and aspire to our dreams.

How are you feeling? Drop me a note.

Sunday, January 20, 2013

Out of body experiences, continued...

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Kent Smith continued the interview.

Her mission, “Through my struggles, it is my goal in life to help make the world a better place by helping others to understand that death is a part of life and it is not an ending to who we are.  And it is only in our attempts to understand this experience that we may overcome much of our fears about it. Not many want to talk about death. But how can we begin to understand it if we don’t? No amount of knowledge can take away all of the fear of this experience because our perceptions are limited by the human brain.

Eastern philosophies idea of reincarnation help to explain the energy imbalances or lack of fairness in our world; if we can overcome our fears to try and understand this experience we call death, it might help us in our daily lives and prepare us for even greater experiences when we do cross dimensions.  The word death in our culture is so taboo…and that, in my opinion, needs to change for our world to become a better place.”

She talked about what helped her cope, “Significant to my recovery throughout the struggles that I’ve been through, again, is my connection to our source, God. Having a minister, priest, shaman, monk, or sage are wonderful mentors in assisting us to have a closer connection to God. But the real focus must be between us and our creator on a daily basis, not just when things are going badly in our lives, but being grateful when the pendulum swings in the other direction.  And becoming aware that, by design, there is plenty of help on this journey in each person’s life.  Our deceased loved ones, our own guides in spirit, and angels galore are a huge benefit bestowed to us that we don’t always use to our advantage in any recovery process."

Kent described her book and writing/publishing process, “My book is a metaphysical memoir primarily telling a love story that crosses boundaries of time and space. The book begins telling experiences of my early and young adult life—stories that relate to the paranormal, or experiences that are believed to lie outside the normal. The story chronicles the communication with my boyfriend on the other side who consoles me and his family who are grieving so from the unexpected loss.

Further, as our communication continues with more than just him, a higher purpose is gradually revealed to all that is happening and, aside from this book, is kept hidden in a time capsule to be opened 55 years later. Spiritual scavenger hunts to Canada and Europe not only reveal both past and future lives, but also unveil how we, as human beings, are living in parallel universes or finite planes of light. Therefore, quantum physics is touched on from a layman’s perspective to help in understanding what is being theorized in particle physics today, and may actually be the missing link from what we think of as the afterlife to the one where we are consciously living as human beings.  

Universal Life Strings is the publisher of my book and an organization that was created to promote the understanding of death as a part of life and to bring a higher level of understanding where life and the afterlife meet. It appeals to the spirituality of every sect. Love Promised: A Future Life Revealed can be found on Amazon as an ebook and available on my website at as a hardcopy.”

Her advice for others, “For anyone grieving the loss of a loved one, I would encourage a sincere look outside of the box into the metaphysical world, if not already there, to discover that your loved ones are not what some may think of as dead. Knowing there is a transition to another place, time and dimension is a comforting thought rather than being laid to rest in the ground six feet under. In fact, they are anything but resting; however, they are at peace. When Jesus made the statement in the Bible, ‘Let the dead bury their dead’, in my opinion, he was saying… let them be buried by those who think they are dead. Yes, we must properly dispose of the body, the vehicle used while here, but we are not our physical body, and the spiritual body truly lives on. And, for anyone who is consciously aware of having had out-of-body experiences, Love Promised outlines specific resources that can be sought out focusing on this subject alone.”

Her closing words, “I learned many years ago studying a philosophy of life called Concept-Therapy®, that all ideas can be placed upon your own triangle of knowledge, i.e. fact, theory, or fantasy. Regardless of where the reader’s perceptions may begin or end, I hope the ideas presented in this book, if nothing else, will instill within the reader the desire to question and ponder the reality of life and death.   For it’s in our searching for answers that we do find them.  Though we may choose to believe what we have read or what someone may say; truth comes to us all from within. And because we are multifaceted beings living in a linear universe, the truth may not be the same for all.”

For more information, question or to purchase a book, contact Kent via email,

Saturday, January 19, 2013

Emotional wounds, continued...

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I was inspired to tap into the psyche, at a basic level, by my degree I am pursuing in counseling. I've only had 2 weeks of class but I'm already really intrigued by the topic. It seems like I'm going to go through a lot of self and group analysis in my Masters Degree for Mental Health Counseling. I can't wait to learn more about myself and understand why I do the things that I do.

I'm sure my upbringing, development, environment and much, much more plays into all of this. I have so much to learn but I'm happy that I'm truly interested in the task at hand. I believe I've found my calling. And, as the program teaches, I can't help others until I fully understand me (the person coming to the table). It should be an interesting ride!

What are your thoughts about the psyche? Do you feel healthy?

Wednesday, January 16, 2013

The hand you are dealt, continued...

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I love when Oprah offers her forum to a minister in Lifeclass. And, I love the fact that Pastor Rick Warren is preaching about overcoming life circumstances. It seems like life forces a lot of circumstances on us, physically, spiritually and emotionally but we also receive a lot of gifts that offer balance. Our skills and talents might get shadowed by circumstances but with a little support, faith and hard work, perseverance is possible.

I believe this whole-heartily. My life is testimony to this. No, I've not fully arrived but I'm enjoying the ride and my work in process is making me a better person one day at a time. I'm proud of this. I'm proud of my commitment to my health, my family and my soul-work. With baby steps, I'm getting there and these cards that I've been dealt have shaped me into the person I am today.

I've grown and matured significantly over the years, more spiritually as I've embraced my forties.

Do you feel stuck in circumstances? What are they? Are you reaching out for help? Or, perhaps this year you've found momentum. Leave me a note.

Sunday, January 13, 2013

Here I stand, continued...

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Jillian Bullock continued the interview.

She offered advice, “If a person wants to get their life together and transform from a Victim to a Victor it takes courage to face the mistakes you’ve made and take responsibility for your actions. This is definitely difficult to do, but it’s the first step to begin the process of healing. Next, they must get help from someone who can offer professional advice, a therapist, a pastor, an outreach organization, like AA or NA, if necessary. People shouldn’t be afraid to ask for help. Then, the really hard work begins.

They must work toward transforming negative and self-destructive habits, behaviors, and attitudes into productive, positive and loving ones; stay away from people, places and things that can trigger unwanted thoughts and undesirable behavior or action. Surround yourself with positive, uplifting people, not naysayers and those who try to tear you down or break your spirit.”

Today Jillian is working on obtaining a Ph.D. in Psychology.

You can contact her through her website Jillian Bullock Enterprises –