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Dr. Jane A. Simington continued the interview.
She shared, “This discovery touched me deeply, for I was keenly aware that my deepest need was to heal my soul pain and that I did not know how to do so, for while I knew something of religion, I knew nothing at all about spirituality.
Her soul purpose has evolved, “While in the beginning my quest was to find methods that would heal my own heart and soul, my life’s purpose and therefore my Vision is to spread this knowledge and its application to people around the world. My Vision is to apply what I have learned, from my own experience of grief and trauma, and from the healing I have done and witnessed in others, to help heal the physical, emotional, mental and soul wounds of the millions in our world who have been deeply wounded. My Vision is to let the world know that true healing is possible, that it can be each person’s reality. My Vision is to offer to all who choose healing, regardless of where they live, what culture they are from, or what religion they profess, the therapeutic tools to make this happen.”
Jane’s career followed her soul work, “I have a background in both Nursing and Psychology and had practiced for many years as a nurse, often helping those who were dying and those who were grieving. When my son was killed I quickly recognized that the knowledge of grief was very different than the experience of grief. My need to return to the formal halls of learning to obtain a master’s and doctorate degree was based on my need for the information on how to heal myself. It was also based on my knowing that there had to be better ways of helping people move through grief and tragedy than I had previous studied.
When I completed my doctoral studies I accepted a position as a university professor. Within a few years the teaching I was doing was no longer meaningful to me. I knew I had so much more to offer the world and that I had to be in charge of how that important message was delivered. My business, Taking Flight International Corporation became my venue to combine my extensive academic knowledge of trauma with my own lived experience of grief and healing.
My first contract was to work with federally sentenced women who had been traumatized. Since information, in and of itself, did not heal my trauma I suspected that neither would it heal their trauma. I dared! Instead of cognitive programming, I used therapeutic art methods. I taught them mediation and imagery. I helped them understand and apply the messages from their dreams and I guided them to reclaim their personal power. The effects of these methods while positive for them were very encouraging for me. Their feedback gave me the courage to apply those same strategies with other individuals and groups and to document the effectiveness.”
I have published numerous articles about my beliefs and methods in both professional and lay journals. I have written chapters in textbooks and have published a booklet, Responding Soul to Soul: During Difficult Life Experiences. I have written two books, Journey to the Sacred: Mending a Fractured Soul, and Setting the Captive Free. In the first, I share my story of healing and transformation, in the second book I describe the work I now do and offer directions and guidance for others to model. I have produced two award winning videos, Listening to Soul Pain and Healing Soul Pain, as well as three CDS. All focus on the application of methods for advancing along life’s journey. All are positive, inspirational, empowering and motivating.
Jane talked about her books, “My book that I highly recommend for those who are grieving the death of a child, or grieving any tragic death is Journey to the Sacred: Mending a Fractured Soul. While this is not my latest book it is the one I highly recommend for them. It is available at www.amazon.com it is available on my websites at www.takingflightbooks.com and www.takingflightinternational.com
My newest and soon to be released book is THROUGH SOUL’S EYES: Reinventing a Life of Joy and Promise:
Through Soul’s Eyes acknowledges that, for many, the most intense suffering following grief and trauma is that which surfaces from deep within. In Through Soul’s Eyes, Dr. Jane Simington, PhD., validates the experiences of soul pain and teaches strategies she gained from her personal tragedy and healing, and from her professional work with thousands of people. In Through Soul’s Eyes Dr. Simington offers you both her assistance to move your life more gently into the brightness of your new beginnings, and ways to help you live a life filled with joy and promise.”
Her advice for a parent suffering the loss of a child, “Take care of your relationship with your partner and pay attention to the needs of the living children.”
Click here to read her guest post, Death of a Child, on Kimberly Pryor’s blog, Indestructible Relationship. http://indestructiblerelationship.com/death-of-a-child-2/the-death-of-a-child/
Jane offered this support for your living children:
· Face the one who is speaking
- Open posture – so you can hug if you need to
- Eye contact is essential
- Without interrupting
- Avoid advice – Use language of encouragement – powerful for building esteem
-“What else could you try?”
-“How do you think that will work?”
2) Encourage expression of feelings by sharing openly
- “This is how I am feeling. I wonder if you are feeling this too.”
- “This is what I do when I feel this way. What works for you?”
- Read or sing to a young child, then reflect on their feelings about the topic
3) Help them rebuild their self-confidence and self-worth
- “That reminds me of your brother, but I think you do it better.”
- Send notes in the lunch bag, in their pocket
- Write a letter to the grieving child
- Remind the child of the power of their thoughts
- When I was unable to talk I cut out poems, clippings of positive sayings and placed them on the fridge so the children could see them
- Read to a younger child, simple stories explaining grief
- Leave books, videos, etc around the house – on grief and self-esteem
- Remind the child that healing and forgetting are not the same thing
- Praise the child to others –within the child’s range of hearing
4) Tell family and friends to also acknowledge the child’s grief
5) Honor the living child
- Make a special scrap book of his/her activities
- Set his/her picture in just as beautiful and as large a frame as is the picture of the child who has died
- Get involved in a special and unique activity with each child
- Make a point to spend quality time alone with each child
- Touch, hug, hold – when you cannot speak, they will still feel your love
6) Use art, music, dance and ritual to help express feeling and to heal.”Jane’s contact detail, “Readers can view my work on my website at www.takingflightinternational.com, email my office at firstname.lastname@example.org or telephone my office at 780 473 6732.
If readers want to have me speak at a conference or offer a healing workshop in their area or if the media want to connect with me they can contact Jodi at email@example.com
If readers want more information about the Greif Support Certification or the Trauma Recovery Certification training I offer, they can visit my website www.takingflightinternational.com.
For training information, professionals can also contact Marlane at firstname.lastname@example.org.”
Jane’s work continues to be acknowledged, “For my visionary work in helping other achieve healing following grief and trauma I have received the YWCA 2011 Woman of Distinction Award, the Global Television Woman of Vision Award, March 2011, The CARNA Nurse to Know , April 2011, and the 2012 Life time Achievement AARN Award.”