Sunday, November 27, 2011

Her ship sank at sea, continued...

Photo of Pam on ship.

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Examiner article

Pamela Bitterman shared an insert from her book, Sailing To The Far Horizon; The Restless Journey and Tragic Sinking of a Tall Ship:
“Perhaps one of the most difficult tasks that we are expected to accomplish in this life arrives in the aftermath of such a dreadful ordeal. Be it a war, act of violence, illness, accident, profound personal loss, or disaster at sea, we must then shoulder the awesome burden of how to incorporate this reality-altering experience in our lives. If we convince ourselves that we must be better human beings for having endured, do we search for new meaning? If we dare ask “Why me?” do we commit ourselves to finding an answer? If, during the course of our traumatic experience, we attain a heightened level of consciousness, must we forever after engage in an earnest struggle to regain that elevated state of being? And should we attempt to share the details of the ordeal? Because far too often, language is so piteously inadequate to convey the true depth of emotion that we feel that we end up trivializing it. We are then left with the sick empty sensation of having betrayed something vitally personal. In the final analysis many of us who survive such a test feel bilked. We realize that we may not have survived because we were chosen, and we therefore should not expect to experience some cosmic rebirth. We are only mortal. We are flawed. And for a time we are hopelessly lost and desperately alone.” It has been more than a quarter century since the disaster. I have moved on, and life has filled up the spaces left in the wake of the Sofia. I expect it has been so for us all.
We are today as we existed then – separate beings who once combined on a magical stage to form one fantastic, albeit temporary, ensemble.” And I will feel an imperishable connection to that time; the people, the places, and the incomparable adventures. Perhaps I will always be looking to recreate the enchantment of an era and a world now long gone, but never forgotten.”

Her book is published by Terrace Books, a trade imprint of The University of Wisconsin Press, 2004.

Pamela and her husband honor and memorialized this time through the names of their children, Rigel and Hallie.

In Pamela’s words, “Our children were given proud names that honor our sailing adventure and memorialize the events. Our son is named for a prominent navigational star, the brightest star in the universe. Our daughter’s name means lover of the sea. They are both amazing human beings.”

Click here to visit Pamela’s website where you can learn more about her and her work.

Saturday, November 26, 2011

Limitations you must overcome, continued...

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Examiner article

I have a lot of self imposed limitations or to be more honest fears. I have also overcome many in the past. I overcome and persevere and then look forward and discover more. My life has been a winding path of challenges and pain that I have climbed over, stomped on and found victory within. It will become a great book someday. I'm already working on it.

I've always feared living the life as an artist, which is my passion. Today, I'm doing it. Each day is filled with anxiety but each day I figure out a new way, embrace another idea and push forward mostly in baby steps. Many times I feel like I'm standing still and going no where fast. Then someone writes me about a line in my book that touched them or comments on my column or piece of art and I suddenly feel warm and appreciated. You see, I know I am a creative and compassionate person. I have always made success at any project I ultimately embrace with my mind, body and spirt. Many of the people who know me, think I am a very courageous individual. This is not true. I am actually quite fearful and weak inside.

I just don't let my fears hold me back. I battle the fear most everyday. Some days, it wins but most of the time, I eventually kick its butt. In my business, Lifetime Art Impressions, LLC., I have just begun my quest to help others heal through art. I have many limitations and one by one, I'm pushing through them. My passion to reach others and help them heal through creativity and art is a necessity. I am making the world a better place one creative piece at a time.

How are you fueling your passion? Leave me a comment.

Enlightenment, continued...

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Examiner article

Gaining spiritual enlightenment is the ultimate high. If only all of the drug and alcoholics truly understood this, the world would be such a better and more loving place to live. If you understand that your energy connects to the greater good and this engages the universe, this thought alone makes the trivial stuff dissolve. This realization validates that you are never alone and that you really do matter. You have a place and a purpose in the universe. And, you can find the answer to all of this within.

It is pretty amazing stuff.

What are your thoughts about spiritual enlightenment? Enlighten me!

Sunday, November 20, 2011

Sailing the seas, continued...

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Photo of Pamela Bitterman (provided by Pam Bitterman)

Examiner article

Pamela talked about the loss of the ship, “Although I had been a newbie know-nothing swabbie myself when I initially boarded the Sofia in Boston Harbor nearly four years earlier, I had earned my sea legs over time and nautical miles. When the ship went down, and a life was lost while sixteen others were put in mortal danger, I was Acting First Mate, second in command. This fact changed forever the impact of the event in my life. I knew I would miss the Sofia for as long as I lived. I would dream of her, romanticize about her, grieve for her, and ponder my part in her life and her loss.”

Instead of denying her passion, Pamela preserved through the adversity she suffered and continued to push forward embracing her love for the water. As detailed in the article, she and her husband incorporated their passion in the upbringing of their children.

Are you neglecting a passion because you feel there isn’t a fit for it in your life? I hope Pamela’s story inspires you to better prioritize the love of your life into your daily path.

Click here to purchase a copy of Pamela’s book, Sailing To The Far Horizon; The Restless Journey and Tragic Sinking of a Tall Ship. She shares her story at sea in great detail in this book.

Saturday, November 19, 2011

Teen emotional immaturity and drugs, continued...

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Examiner article

Their are 4 teenagers in my household and I am working diligently to educate and make sure they are continually saying no to drugs. As they have communicated to me, drugs are everywhere in their world especially Marijuana. This horrifies me. I spoke to a Michigan State police officer and he told me that in many local schools Heroin is the drug of choice. This scares me. I can't imagine these kids justifying such drug use.

I think today it is very difficult to keep a handle on teen interface considering technology. There are so many on-line avenues; cell phones, x-box, computers and so on. They have a lot of time on their hands and if you're not working to keep this focused in a positive direction, peer pressure and other factors will step in.

As I said before, many teens communicate they would never drink and drive but they won't think twice about getting behind the wheel after smoking a joint. This is really crazy to me. They can justify the influence of marijuana in a belief they're able to control its influence.

I think we just keep reinforcing the truth, work to keep them in-line and hope they make healthy decisions when they are young adults and have the freedom to choose.

What are your thoughts?

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Broken, continued...

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Examiner article

Yesterday I wrote about being in a fragile state which I admit I enter a lot of the time. I also said that I am a very strong person. In today's article I wanted to take it one step further, I wrote about feeling broken. I am a survivor of a lot of hardship from an early age in life. I have always had a will to live. Suicide has not been an option for me. I find my way through hardship by embracing my will to live through and endure anything thus far. But, even considering this, I have to admit, I have been broken a few times in my life.

When I chose to pursue a divorce, this broke me. I so believed in the vows "Until death do we part" although circumstances that were out of my control caused an unhealthy environment in my marriage. I'm sure it was the right decision for me but it did change me. It hurt me to force myself through the disruption and betrayal I suffered.

When I lost my father I felt broken. My spirit was lost in this process. Of course, since then, I've found health and happiness but suffering through bereavement changed me forever.

There is life after being broken. You can mend your spirit and rejuvenate your soul. This is the message of my article.

Leave me your thoughts about this emotional state. I want to hear from you.

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

Fragile times, continued...

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Wow, fragile moments are common in my life. At the same time, I believe I am a very strong person. For many, these 2 sentences might seem contradictory. This concept is what had inspired the article. It seems like, especially as women, we have to hide our fragility. We think we have to be strong always or we are portrayed as weak. This isn't true. The article communicates how common it is to feel fragile. It discusses this weakness and how it can overpower. It also discusses what we gain as it comes and goes in our lives. We gain a resilience to live.

What are your thoughts about fragility and life? Leave me a note!

Friday, November 11, 2011

In case of an emergency, continued...

Photo provided by Mary Kelly

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Examiner article

Dr. Mary Kelly has impressive credentials. But, what is more inspiring to me is the fact that she has devoted her efforts to help eliminate unnecessary pain and suffering for others.

Bereavement takes its toll regardless but if you do not have to worry about the legalities tied to your loss, it makes a significant difference.

I wish my Dad had his paperwork in order. It was heartbreaking for me to try to understand and learn the process while suffering his loss.

Click here to visit Mary’s website,

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

The greatest sum, continued...

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Examiner article

This article discusses Maya Angelo's thoughts about people reflecting the greatest sum of their whole experiences thus far. It inspired, what I think, is critical for people who feel like they are stuck in their life. The article offers a path to move forward and free oneself from the past. The key is, ownership of actions, loving oneself as is and embracing the wisdom considering your past and present state to move forward.

It is really difficult to accept that we are flawed. For me, I have taken ownership of my mistakes and bad choices from the past, but, I'm still working on forgiveness. I'm getting there, making progress. I realize this is necessary, a worthwhile process for me to fully take in and embrace in order to live my healthiest future.

Share your thoughts, I'm interested.

Sunday, November 6, 2011

Healing began, continued...

Photo provided by Candace Talmadge

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Examiner article

I'm sure many people can relate to Candace’s story and the fact that she is feeling healthy today is inspiring!

She shared in further detail some of the challenge she overcame.

Candace detailed, “1986—I’m 32 and in big trouble with undiagnosed anxiety disorder. Not being good at selling myself, my career as a freelancer is a real challenge. I take a fulltime job for three years between 1991 and 1994 and then am laid off and have not had a fulltime job since.

My panic disorder was rooted in fears that seemed so natural to me that I was not able to put a name to them until late in 2009. About a decade earlier, I had lost the hearing in my left ear and it was finally diagnosed in 2006 as an acoustic neuroma. This is a non-cancerous tumor on the ear nerve that has to be removed or it will continue to grow and cause big problems (like death).

When I asked my guides why, they pointed out that I was never willing to hear the good news, so I didn’t need two ears. Hmmm….

Back to late 2009, just a few days before Christmas. My right ear (the one that still works) became 95% plugged up with wax, and I had to go to the doctor to have it removed. I didn’t know it was ear wax and spent 30 horrible hours fearing I would go deaf. Actually, I was dreading it, and was finally able to put a name to that emotion.

In early 2010, Jana and I did a Sunan session in which we asked God to take back the dread that didn’t belong to me but was in fact one of God’s many emotions upon creating us.

I learned from this that all of us are walking around with emotions that literally do not belong to us but which trouble us greatly. God will take the load off provided we ask and are ready to let go of it. I was more than ready to let go of dread that wasn’t mine.

In June of 2010, I tripped over a speed bump in a parking lot and could not get up without help. The helplessness I had felt all my life became apparent, and while my fractured fingers healed, I let go of helplessness that was not mine, giving it back to God.

Fascinatingly, the trouble swallowing that had been getting worse steadily as I grew older simply vanished. I no longer had food stuck in my throat as I often did before, choking on helplessness that was not mine.

That fall, I was getting better at recognizing those background emotions that I had always felt, even without cause. I realized another one of them was anxiety. I often still felt anxious for no apparent reason. On Thanksgiving morning in 2010, I got up early and lay out the couch in the living room, pondering anxiety and how crippling and unhelpful it can be.

Then I felt a voice saying, 'Now you know how I felt, and what a long struggle it was for me to release anxiety.'

That was God, and I know it and celebrated, and thanked God for my Thanksgiving Day visit. Of course God took away the anxiety that wasn’t mine, and slowly I have felt my anxiety diminish, with occasional spikes. Anxiety is a real bugbear—for God and for me. But slowly, anxiety drains away. (Don’t let the screen door hit you on your way out.)

Early in 2011, I realized that I had always felt enormous frustration, and obviously some of it wasn’t mine. I asked God to take what wasn’t mine. The effect of that letting go has been slow but building over time. Stuff that once might have gotten me all wound up just doesn’t bother me anymore. Whew!

Instead of overcoming anything, I free myself by releasing that which keeps me locked to it—self-judgment, or hanging onto emotions that literally are not mine and thus I have no power to heal them. We can heal only that which truly belongs to us, which is why we cannot heal other people, only ourselves.”

It is my hope you will learn from Candace’s journey. Anyone who is or has been frozen by fear can appreciate the courage Candace had to embrace to move forward.

Click here to learn more about and/or contact Candace.

Trees are sacred, continued...

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Examiner article

I have always loved trees. They keep me in awe of their beauty and strength. This summer I visited the Redwoods in northern California and just being there, among the gentle giants, it felt like an out of body spiritual experience.

It is a deep connection that I share with them. I know this sounds weird but it almost takes my breath away to really take in the sight of a tree.

Last night I dreamt of a tree. It was empowering and it inspired a project that I will pursue in my business. I'm excited about the prospect of this new endeavor. Stay tuned to learn more as I bring life to this dream!

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Halloween and life, continued...

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Examiner article

Halloween takes on a whole new meaning as an adult especially when you look at it from the perspective in my Examiner article. The article was inspired, this year, by my real life goblin. It is one that was trying to overpower me with fear. It manifested as a lump in my breast. I was able to push through my anxiety and take additional tests to eventually sit in front of a breast surgeon for another opinion. I ended up getting the lump or benign cyst (this is what the doctors thought it might be) drained and tested to assure me it wasn't cancer. The whole process was scary but necessary. The thought of wondering if it was cancerous would have been toxic for me in the long run.

Many woman have braved this scenario some with similar outcomes and others who suffered through much more severe outcomes. I'm happy to put it behind me and breath easier today. I'm also happy to celebrate this Halloween!

What goblins have you triumphed over? Leave me a comment!