Sunday, February 28, 2010

Surviving Unemployment, continued...

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Examiner article

Mary Anne Britton is a dear friend of mine who I met when I hired her through a temp agency. It breaks my heart to see her struggle in this crazy market. I'm hopeful she will land a great position in the very near future. It is somewhat understandable when you know someone who doesn't put forth real effort and/or milks the system but when circumstances are polar opposites, it doesn't make sense why an employer hasn't stepped up!

Mary Anne offered advice to others who have recently lost their jobs, " First look at all your options; get your financial house in order – if possible pay down bills; as far as purchases learn that even if it was on your “want list” ask yourself if it is on your “need list”. Learn to live much simpler; I have a crock pot that I use to make soups etc so I have learned to live more inexpensively with less food additives. Dial down the temperature and put on a sweatshirt and sign up for all the classes at Michigan Works!

I have faith in our Detroit business' knowing someone will read the article and approach Mary Anne with a purchasing opportunity of a life time! Can you help?

Friday, February 26, 2010

You're fired, continued...

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Examiner article

This article is very personal to me. I, like many of my coworkers and friends, have been through this horrible and eye-opening experience. Looking back, it was the one thing that gave me the courage to ignite my passion for writing and drawing and market these skills. It was a blessing in disguise. I thought, while the market is saturated and my odds are low in landing another executive management job, I'll share my efforts and work to build my web business, Lifetime Art Impression. I wouldn't say I'm thriving with sales but I'm starting to feel like things are moving in the right direction which makes me really happy inside. I'm hopeful the market conditions, especially here in Metro Detroit, will open up and we can all let go of our anxieties tied to bills. Although, I must admit, I've learned how to better manage my finances in this crash course of survival. How are you doing in this economic down fall?

Wednesday, February 24, 2010

Time devoted to rest, travel or recreation, continued...

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Examiner article


As a child I grew up poor (I've mentioned this before) and therefore the only trip I remember was one when I was in about 4th grade and we ventured Up North in Michigan a few hours away, to stay a couple of nights with a Great Uncle and his wife. It was one of the highlights of my childhood. Nothing exotic, in fact, it was quite the opposite but it might as well been as it touched me sincerely. We enjoyed a visit to the House of Flavors ice cream shop where we were able to "win" a pin which said, "I was a pig at the House of Flavors" when we finished our, very large, Sundays that were served in a pig trough! I, of course, had to have help from the table to be able to get the pin, but the experience was priceless. This memento, along with a knitted doll from a great cousin, was my souvenirs from the trip. We didn't have the money to venture out shopping but it didn't matter. I still have the knitted doll today! The message here is to step out of your world for a short time and do not let your financial status or busy schedule get in your way and keep you from creating memories that last a lifetime. Where will you go?

Sunday, February 21, 2010

My DNR order today is all heroic measures, I'm not done yet, continued...

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I interviewed Tom with another gentleman from Access Magazine who is also living with a Spinal Cord Injury (SPI). I was overwhelmed by the courage and spirit these 2 men radiate. I learned so much about them and how they, with time, overcame their tragedy and accepted their new lives. They were able to learn to lead completely new lives, transforming themselves into leaders and giving back to the community in the aftermath of horrific injuries. I'm sure I will be interfacing with the Ann Arbor Center for the Independent Living in some way in the future. It is a worthy, non-profit organization that needs our help to continue to do such great work. If you're able to help in any way, please contact Tom Hoatlin to contribute! You're gift will be greatly appreciated.

Friday, February 19, 2010

Does your life feel out of control, continued...

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Examiner article

Yesterday when I was interviewed on the Healing a Grieving Heart radio show, I was asked if I found anything in common between the loss I have suffered; loss of my marriage, job, my father and so on. It made me realize the common factor, in all cases, was really out of my control. You might think you can make your marriage work, but you can only control your part, not your partners. You might think you can control your career but sometimes there are circumstances beyond your hard work effort that causes your departure and we all know life isn't everlasting but emotionally, you feel like your parents will always be there for you. In all cases I felt like my world, at least as I knew it, was shattered and this was true. I had to brave through the change and transform myself into a person who is divorced, who is unemployed and who is without a father here on earth. I survived it all and I will continue to survive the next phase of change. I may not like everything that comes my way but I can count on my strength to make the best of it and find the silver-lining as I move forward. How has your loss gifted you?

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Keep your inner child alive, continued...

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Examiner article

My family was very poor when I was a child. My parents did their best although I felt like we were growing up in the 40's as opposed to the 70's. Of course my childhood set a course that enabled me to be a very passionate and aggressive person. I had a very active imagination when I was young and I spent a lot of time drawing. All it took was a pencil or crayons and some scrap paper; I could look at anything and draw it. I'm sure all of my childhood practice helped me to hone my skills into what they are today. When I sit in front of a blank sheet of paper and before I know it, the empty space comes to life as I create an image filled colors and emotion, I'm actually feeding my inner child. I love the feeling I get as I complete each piece of art. I haven't spent much time, as an adult, drawing but now that I'm making a career of it, I'm excited to give myself permission to play! Have you given yourself permission yet?

Sunday, February 14, 2010

What romantic gesture will you remember, continued...

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Examiner article

As I said in the article, flowers and candy are great but most of the time, it really isn't an emotional gesture unless it is packaged with more feeling!

My cousin, Jackie Demorist-Hill shared a story about her husband and her love for fresh flowers. She described her time in need, "We had just got home and I had cramps really bad so he ran me a bath and helped me into the tub. Shortly after, I heard him rustling around in the kitchen and when I asked him what he was doing, he had said nothing. But then he walked into the bathroom with a bouquet of fresh cut flowers he had gathered from around our apartment building!"

This story takes the gift of flowers to a more deep emotional level! For me, my boyfriend is always doing very thoughtful things. One of his earliest romantic gestures took place the day before my Colonoscopy during my last meal stage. He left my favorite dark chocolates on my doorstep so I could enjoy them as my last taste and 1st taste after the procedure. It also took chocolates to a more deep, emotional level for me!

What are some of your most cherished romantic moments?

Friday, February 12, 2010

An authentic alliance blended with love and spirituality, soul mates, have you found yours, continued...

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I think we go through bad relationships to help us mature and educate us to find our way to our soul mate. The bad ones also gift us with a new found appreciation for the "real and lifetime" love of our lives! I'm fortunate to have finally found the guy who lifts my spirit and makes me feel like I can soar through life happy. He is my true support. Am I saying I couldn't survive without him, NO. I'm a survivor and I can find my way through anything. I'm saying this person is someone who I want to share the rest of my life with, someone who I trust my darkest secrets to and someone who makes me feels safe when he wraps his arms around me; my soul mate! I feel truly blessed for our relationship. How do you feel about yours?

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Reunited love is a big mistake, continued...

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Examiner article

My story is not as dramatic as the article portrays but, at one time, I was infatuated with a guy in high school although he really didn't know I existed. I watched him from a far for several years until he graduated. I think he was 2 years ahead of me. At that time, I would never had approached a guy. At the end of my senior year I ran into this person at a graduation party and we shared our first kiss. We had been drinking so when I wasn't "knocked off my feet" by the moment, I thought maybe I just wasn't myself because of the alcohol. A few days later we ended up going to Cedar Point for a day that I thought would be fun. To my surprise, I couldn't get away from him quick enough. I felt like I was carrying someone on my back as we waited in long lines under the hot sun. He was really clingy way to early in the relationship for me. Needless to say, it was our last date. If I had only left the crush alone I wouldn't have ruined my thoughts of bliss about him! I was really disappointed when I realized I had made him much more than he was in real life. It wasn't even his fault! Can you share any 2nd chance reunions with me? I would love to hear about some that have worked out. I am a hopeless romantic!

Sunday, February 7, 2010

A bereavement story of both sadness and triumph, continued...

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Examiner article

I am working with Ed Gray on a community project bringing Rev. Penny Jones' vision "The HeARTworks Project" to life. Both Ed & I have a similar story in that we both have discovered the therapeutic benefits of writing. He has been through a lot and instead of hiding under the covers and shutting down his life, he uses his story to help others. In Ed's book, The Essence of Grieving, he discusses the first date he went on "and his feelings of cheating" although his wife had passed; it is really interesting. He has a girlfriend today who is a widow which Ed appreciates. They can both understand each other's pain. I'm sure, his wife, is so happy his heart is singing again instead of aching. I wish everyone could find as Cher put it, "Life after Love." I'm grateful for my new friendship with Ed. Pick up a copy of his book, especially if you are a hopeless romantic, it will tug at the strings of your heart!

Friday, February 5, 2010

The benefits of journaling, continued...

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I guess I really didn't realize the benefits of journaling until I wrote my first book, What Can I Say When Words Escape Me, being present in times of sorrow. I can validate that it really did give me an outlet for all of the crazy feelings that rushed in with the loss of my Father and job in 2008. I didn't really think about how it helped me until I went to a taping at Public Television with Dr. Stearns. She gave me the "light-bulb" moment offering the scientific spin on this outlet. She also noted that in studies of groups equally matched, the group that journaled were able to get a job much quicker than the group that didn't. The stat was pretty high. Why, because those who journaled worked through their feelings as apposed to the other group who had bottled their emotions up inside to fester. This type of psyche actually affects your day to day interface. What is your outlet to clear your mind? Share your thoughts with me, I would love to hear more ideas!

Wednesday, February 3, 2010

Feel love in your heart, continued...

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I once read you are most creative or inspired just as you awake in the morning. You know, it is the time between your sleeping self and that big stretch and wide eyed self. After I stumbled on this tid-bit of information, I embraced the concept. As I roll over and wake from my deep sleep each morning, I think of and honor my feelings of gratitude, wishful thinking and prayer for inspiration which helps me to push forward in a positive manner. Call me crazy but I believe it has helped me. Sure, I still have bad events or moments in my life but they seem to come fewer and farther in between. I used to pray at night before I fell to sleep dozing off with good intention. Now I'm not only ending my days with good thoughts but I'm also embracing positivity in my early waking moments, setting the stage for a great day. I still have a choice and control how the day will shape itself but, for sure, I'm starting off in the right place; with love in my heart! Try it and let me know if it helps you also.