Wednesday, December 30, 2009

Incarcerated again on New Years Eve, continued...

Click the below link to my Examiner article, Mike's interview, for background information to this blog entry:

Examiner article

This was a tough interview for me, it is hard to imagine finding a healthy side to alcoholism. It has been part of my environment as a child and into my adult life. Both my father and my ex-husband fought these demons. I lived the devastation of it, watched the denial and felt its pain. It was a demon I wasn't able to conquer for them and, Mike A. is right, you have to have the desire to get help and no one can do this for you. It is hard to cope under such unhealthy conditions but I survived and I learned that I could control the impact it had on me and on my children. I prayed a lot and, in time, we rose out of the circumstantial ashes!

Sunday, December 27, 2009

Blessings of trials and tribulations, continued

Click the below link to my Examiner article, Sheri's interview, for background information to this blog entry:

Examiner article

Sheri is my cousin (I still claim my ex-husband's family). They are wonderful, all of them! Sheri has, probably, the most courage of anyone I know. If you met her in public, you would have no idea the sadness she has endured. She is a very charismatic person and a wonderful mother! I can't even begin to imagine, nor do I hope I ever have to imagine her agony. I will always look to her for strength when I'm fearful of something in my life. Her testimony truly inspires me! Who inspires you to push forward?

Saturday, December 26, 2009

Heavenly memories of loved ones from Christmas past

Click the below link to my Examiner article for background information to this blog entry:

Examiner article

This is our 2nd Christmas without my Dad and it still feels pretty bad. I did go through the motions as I discussed in my last post but my spirit wasn't quite on board with my body and mind. I'm sure as the holidays come and go I will feel happy again but I guess I'm not quite there yet. I did have joyous moments which I'll hang onto as I'm sure these moments will grow and eventually I'll be back to the happiness I once felt. I know it will be packaged differently but I'm sure I'll recognize it and embrace it when it arrives! Are you looking to the future or are you imprisoned by your past? Cherish past memories while navigating forward to make new ones; Merry Christmas!

Friday, December 25, 2009

How to overcome the winter blues, continued...

Click the below link to my Examiner article for background information to this blog entry:

Examiner article

It doesn't matter how much of your dreams you have reached, we're all human and, at times, we feel down. It does seem to be more frequent in the winter time. This year it seemed like I didn't really feel the holiday spirit; like I was just going through the motions. Don't get me wrong, I'm so grateful for friends and family and being able to give and I have such appreciation for my gifts, I just felt like all of the activities we're things I had to do instead of really being present in the moment. I'm anxious to take the decorations down and glad to put the craziness behind me. I'm going to work hard to be present and upbeat, as much as possible, as I move into 2010. What about you?

Sunday, December 20, 2009

Building better communities, continued

Click the below link to my Examiner article, Claudia's interview, for background information to this blog entry:

Examiner article

I met Claudia in 2008 when I replied to her add looking for artwork for her gallery in Brighton. I knew from our 1st meeting we would be connected in someway for many years. She is a warm person who is really trying to make the world a better place. If you are looking for a church or even a virtual forum, be sure to check out Wisdom Circle Ministries, I know you will embrace her virtual home!

Friday, December 18, 2009

Holidays rekindle relationships, continued...

Click the below link to my Examiner article for background information to this blog entry:

Examiner article

I feel so blessed with such good people in my life. I still see friends from school and from everywhere I have worked. It seems like I'm finding more and more sincere people around me as I move through my life. Although, at the end of each year I end up feeling bad thinking about how little time I spend with my older friends. I'm going to make a better effort to touch base more. The older I get the more I realize the value of this companionship. I did a better job this year using the Linkedin and Facebook forums but I need to venture my efforts out of the virtual world to make physical connections with everyone. More lunches, dinners, movies and visits will be prioritized in 2010 for me. It sounds like a lot of fun, doesn't it?

Wednesday, December 16, 2009

Accident or Coincident continued...

Click the below link to my Examiner article for background information to this blog entry:

Examiner article

I'm 100% sure I should have been listening to my inner voice and developing my creative talents instead of choosing a career that was more materialistic. It took me 40 years and much turmoil to realize my calling but it is better late than never. I am very anxious about the money. I'm hoping I'll be able to support our lifestyle while keeping my inner peace and helping people heal all at the same time. What a great win-win opportunity!!! I feel I'm finally on the right path, are you?

Sunday, December 13, 2009

Loss through incarceration, continued...

Click the below link to my Examiner article, Bonnie's interview, for background information to this blog entry:

Examiner article

I have never really thought of families who bereave loved ones loss through incarceration. It might be similar to loss of a loved one who committed suicide since the person struggling with the loss had no choice and their loved one is now gone in a moment's time, out of their life. I can only imagine they are hurt, angry and sad all at once but, of course, I really don't know and hope I never live this experience. Bonnie has opened my heart to this type of bereavement. She is a wonderful person and we need more people in the world like her! Did the article help you relate with them better?

Manifesting your dreams, continued...

Click the below link to my Examiner article for background information to this blog entry:

Examiner article

I whole-heartily believe in manifestation. When I'm feeling like life is kicking me in the butt, I'll pull out my copy of the Secret and it helps get my mind back on track again. I think you can practice manifesting and you can actually get better with practice. Start by visualizing a good parking spot and once you've learned how to materialize this "actively" in your life, move to bigger and better things. For me, my biggest and best manifest I brought into my life is my boyfriend, Jim. I made a list, cleaned out some space in my house and then I bought some nice nighties:) He came into my life 4 months later. I don't think I could have done any better. He is the most awesome man I've ever met. Pretty cool, huh. All you have to do is believe, really believe and I know you can make your dreams come true. What do you think???

Thursday, December 10, 2009

Ideas to ease holiday stress, continued...

Click the below link to my Examiner article for background information to this blog entry:

Examiner article

I can't even begin to imagine how I handled everything, especially during the holidays, when I worked full time. I think I've turned soft; I'm a wimp now. It is hard to believe but I'm stressed in my stay at home life! I think maybe the truth is, I've increased my expectations of myself as an attempt to overcompensate for not getting a payroll check. Perhaps someday I'll be able to give myself a break; accept myself without giving me far too many "to do's" and setting myself up for failure! Why do we do that to ourselves? HELP!!!

Sunday, December 6, 2009

The perfect holiday gift fit for all ages, continued...

Click the below link to my Examiner article, Jenni's interview, for background information to this blog entry:

Examiner article

It was a pleasure meeting and spending time with Jenni Gordon today. She is really an interesting person; warm, intelligent, cultured and creative! I can't speak enough about the story she brought to life in her book, One Day, I had Enough! It will engage anyone who picks it up. I highly recommend, regardless of your age, you purchase this book for someone you love or for yourself this holiday season! Do you have a self-centered, innocent but a bit malicious story you want to share from your childhood? Post a comment and let’s share a laugh!

Friday, December 4, 2009

Nurturing young survivors of divorce continued...

Click the below link to my Examiner article for background information to this blog entry:

Examiner article

Although it saddens me that I was unable to maintain a healthy marriage, I realize I did my best and, even considering the pain we all shared, I feel like the boys have survived, to date, as healthy as possible. My article is based on my own experience and although I didn't research it, the first article I looked at (and linked to) validates my advice. I know I can only control my impact on them and I believe my focus was and continues to be in there best interest. I've told them many times, I would do it all over again because the love shared between me and their father created them. I couldn't imagine my life without them in it. They truly make my world and I hope they feel the same way about me:)

Thursday, December 3, 2009

Judgmental Injustice continued...

Click the below link to my Examiner article for background information to this blog entry:

Examiner article

When I see a person who looks "different" I always wonder what their life is like and if they might be reaching out for attention even if it isn't the best kind. If I feel threatened or intimidated by the individual, I notice my judgmental self comes out. My cautious thoughts start profiling. I have to work on finding a middle ground and learn to trust, even people who look intimidating can be good people. I have to make sure I'm not being too naive but also use my instinct. It is a tough scenario!