Wednesday, December 30, 2009

Incarcerated again on New Years Eve, continued...

Click the below link to my Examiner article, Mike's interview, for background information to this blog entry:

Examiner article

This was a tough interview for me, it is hard to imagine finding a healthy side to alcoholism. It has been part of my environment as a child and into my adult life. Both my father and my ex-husband fought these demons. I lived the devastation of it, watched the denial and felt its pain. It was a demon I wasn't able to conquer for them and, Mike A. is right, you have to have the desire to get help and no one can do this for you. It is hard to cope under such unhealthy conditions but I survived and I learned that I could control the impact it had on me and on my children. I prayed a lot and, in time, we rose out of the circumstantial ashes!

Sunday, December 27, 2009

Blessings of trials and tribulations, continued

Click the below link to my Examiner article, Sheri's interview, for background information to this blog entry:

Examiner article

Sheri is my cousin (I still claim my ex-husband's family). They are wonderful, all of them! Sheri has, probably, the most courage of anyone I know. If you met her in public, you would have no idea the sadness she has endured. She is a very charismatic person and a wonderful mother! I can't even begin to imagine, nor do I hope I ever have to imagine her agony. I will always look to her for strength when I'm fearful of something in my life. Her testimony truly inspires me! Who inspires you to push forward?

Saturday, December 26, 2009

Heavenly memories of loved ones from Christmas past

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Examiner article

This is our 2nd Christmas without my Dad and it still feels pretty bad. I did go through the motions as I discussed in my last post but my spirit wasn't quite on board with my body and mind. I'm sure as the holidays come and go I will feel happy again but I guess I'm not quite there yet. I did have joyous moments which I'll hang onto as I'm sure these moments will grow and eventually I'll be back to the happiness I once felt. I know it will be packaged differently but I'm sure I'll recognize it and embrace it when it arrives! Are you looking to the future or are you imprisoned by your past? Cherish past memories while navigating forward to make new ones; Merry Christmas!

Friday, December 25, 2009

How to overcome the winter blues, continued...

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Examiner article

It doesn't matter how much of your dreams you have reached, we're all human and, at times, we feel down. It does seem to be more frequent in the winter time. This year it seemed like I didn't really feel the holiday spirit; like I was just going through the motions. Don't get me wrong, I'm so grateful for friends and family and being able to give and I have such appreciation for my gifts, I just felt like all of the activities we're things I had to do instead of really being present in the moment. I'm anxious to take the decorations down and glad to put the craziness behind me. I'm going to work hard to be present and upbeat, as much as possible, as I move into 2010. What about you?

Sunday, December 20, 2009

Building better communities, continued

Click the below link to my Examiner article, Claudia's interview, for background information to this blog entry:

Examiner article

I met Claudia in 2008 when I replied to her add looking for artwork for her gallery in Brighton. I knew from our 1st meeting we would be connected in someway for many years. She is a warm person who is really trying to make the world a better place. If you are looking for a church or even a virtual forum, be sure to check out Wisdom Circle Ministries, I know you will embrace her virtual home!

Friday, December 18, 2009

Holidays rekindle relationships, continued...

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Examiner article

I feel so blessed with such good people in my life. I still see friends from school and from everywhere I have worked. It seems like I'm finding more and more sincere people around me as I move through my life. Although, at the end of each year I end up feeling bad thinking about how little time I spend with my older friends. I'm going to make a better effort to touch base more. The older I get the more I realize the value of this companionship. I did a better job this year using the Linkedin and Facebook forums but I need to venture my efforts out of the virtual world to make physical connections with everyone. More lunches, dinners, movies and visits will be prioritized in 2010 for me. It sounds like a lot of fun, doesn't it?

Wednesday, December 16, 2009

Accident or Coincident continued...

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Examiner article

I'm 100% sure I should have been listening to my inner voice and developing my creative talents instead of choosing a career that was more materialistic. It took me 40 years and much turmoil to realize my calling but it is better late than never. I am very anxious about the money. I'm hoping I'll be able to support our lifestyle while keeping my inner peace and helping people heal all at the same time. What a great win-win opportunity!!! I feel I'm finally on the right path, are you?

Sunday, December 13, 2009

Loss through incarceration, continued...

Click the below link to my Examiner article, Bonnie's interview, for background information to this blog entry:

Examiner article

I have never really thought of families who bereave loved ones loss through incarceration. It might be similar to loss of a loved one who committed suicide since the person struggling with the loss had no choice and their loved one is now gone in a moment's time, out of their life. I can only imagine they are hurt, angry and sad all at once but, of course, I really don't know and hope I never live this experience. Bonnie has opened my heart to this type of bereavement. She is a wonderful person and we need more people in the world like her! Did the article help you relate with them better?

Manifesting your dreams, continued...

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Examiner article

I whole-heartily believe in manifestation. When I'm feeling like life is kicking me in the butt, I'll pull out my copy of the Secret and it helps get my mind back on track again. I think you can practice manifesting and you can actually get better with practice. Start by visualizing a good parking spot and once you've learned how to materialize this "actively" in your life, move to bigger and better things. For me, my biggest and best manifest I brought into my life is my boyfriend, Jim. I made a list, cleaned out some space in my house and then I bought some nice nighties:) He came into my life 4 months later. I don't think I could have done any better. He is the most awesome man I've ever met. Pretty cool, huh. All you have to do is believe, really believe and I know you can make your dreams come true. What do you think???

Thursday, December 10, 2009

Ideas to ease holiday stress, continued...

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Examiner article

I can't even begin to imagine how I handled everything, especially during the holidays, when I worked full time. I think I've turned soft; I'm a wimp now. It is hard to believe but I'm stressed in my stay at home life! I think maybe the truth is, I've increased my expectations of myself as an attempt to overcompensate for not getting a payroll check. Perhaps someday I'll be able to give myself a break; accept myself without giving me far too many "to do's" and setting myself up for failure! Why do we do that to ourselves? HELP!!!

Sunday, December 6, 2009

The perfect holiday gift fit for all ages, continued...

Click the below link to my Examiner article, Jenni's interview, for background information to this blog entry:

Examiner article

It was a pleasure meeting and spending time with Jenni Gordon today. She is really an interesting person; warm, intelligent, cultured and creative! I can't speak enough about the story she brought to life in her book, One Day, I had Enough! It will engage anyone who picks it up. I highly recommend, regardless of your age, you purchase this book for someone you love or for yourself this holiday season! Do you have a self-centered, innocent but a bit malicious story you want to share from your childhood? Post a comment and let’s share a laugh!

Friday, December 4, 2009

Nurturing young survivors of divorce continued...

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Examiner article

Although it saddens me that I was unable to maintain a healthy marriage, I realize I did my best and, even considering the pain we all shared, I feel like the boys have survived, to date, as healthy as possible. My article is based on my own experience and although I didn't research it, the first article I looked at (and linked to) validates my advice. I know I can only control my impact on them and I believe my focus was and continues to be in there best interest. I've told them many times, I would do it all over again because the love shared between me and their father created them. I couldn't imagine my life without them in it. They truly make my world and I hope they feel the same way about me:)

Thursday, December 3, 2009

Judgmental Injustice continued...

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Examiner article

When I see a person who looks "different" I always wonder what their life is like and if they might be reaching out for attention even if it isn't the best kind. If I feel threatened or intimidated by the individual, I notice my judgmental self comes out. My cautious thoughts start profiling. I have to work on finding a middle ground and learn to trust, even people who look intimidating can be good people. I have to make sure I'm not being too naive but also use my instinct. It is a tough scenario!

Sunday, November 29, 2009

Generosity is critical especially when times are tight continued...

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Examiner article

The calendar posted in the article is a collaboration of art pieces from several local artist; designed and created by Jill Stefani Wagner. All of its proceeds are used to enable continued survivor support. Hopefully you haven't purchased a 2010 calendar and you'll be able to buy one; you'll not only appreciate the beautiful art work but help Safehouse in return! Domestic violence and sexual assault are horrific crimes that disables and kills. If you or anyone you know is in this situation, call the Safehouse Center helpline phone#(734) 995-5444. It is available 24 hours a day and 7 days a week. They will listen to you and provide options to help empower you!

Saturday, November 28, 2009

Thanks for the gift of your time article continued....

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Examiner article

I've been involved, in 1 way or another, with Safehouse in Ann Arbor, a non-profit organization over the past few years. You'll learn more about them on Sunday when I post an interview article with one of their staff members. I've been working for businesses for over 20 years, interfacing with thousands, and not one of them benches up to the magic accomplished through the teamwork at Safehouse. I haven't encountered anyone who doesn't have a loving presence there. It really makes my spirit rejoice when I think of what they do and how many lives they change daily. I'm proud to be part of their organization! Who are you helping?

Wednesday, November 25, 2009

The freedom of letting go continued...

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Examiner article

Today was my Dad's 71st birthday. I miss him terribly! He passed in 2008 and if it wasn't for my Mom's voice mail, I don't think I could even remember what his voice sounds like. It is really hard for me. I'm lucky I had a great relationship with him as an adult. I feel like I made him proud and I was actively involved in his life all the way until his last breath; I was there as much as possible. It was my fear he would pass by himself which wasn't the case. I'm sure I would have had a much more difficult time in the aftermath of his death, had I felt guilty about things. I pray for anyone suffering with guilt from a loved one who has passed. I hope the article helps sooth this pain! As for me, I know I can always close my eyes and find my dad imprinted in my memories!

Sunday, November 22, 2009

Bereaving the loss of a husband continued....

Click the below link to my Examiner article, Patricia's interview, for background information to this blog entry:

Examiner article

The loss of Buck LaBean, my Father and Patricia LaBean's husband, has been the most traumatic thing any of us have been through. We've all leaned on each other and with each day that passes it seems we're healing. Interviewing my Mom and asking some personal questions helped me discover that she is doing better than I expected with her bereavement. My Mom is a really strong person but she is living with a broken heart hoping her time left on earth is minimal. It is sad to accept this but I realize her world has been shattered and it will take some time for her to try to recover and find peace with a new life without my dad.

Friday, November 20, 2009

Using Your Spirituality as Your Lifeline

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Examiner article

I was able to really understand the power of God and our great universe when we visited the Grand Canyon this past summer. The view really gives a perspective of something much bigger than "us". If you ever get a chance, it is a worth-while trip!

Thursday, November 19, 2009

Priceless Self Worth Article continued...

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Examiner article

As a Mother I really believe my boys learn more from my actions or non-verbal approaches as apposed to learning from my words (which is good more times than not)! I've always tried to be fair with them and, if I mess up, I've learned to recognize it and apologize just as I would expect them to do for me when the tables are turned. Through the good times and bad, I've somehow been able to hold my head high and keep my ethics in check knowing these young pupils of life we're absorbing all of my reactions along the way. One of my biggest fears has been the disabling thought of either of them not possessing healthy self-worth. I'm really proud of both of them and I'm so grateful they've found their way and, in their young teen lives, they are both exuding priceless self-worth. I'm keeping my fingers crossed and I'm praying a lot along the way that we stay on course, taking it and enjoying one day at a time!

Sunday, November 15, 2009

Forced career change surfaced a new found passion

Click the below link to my Examiner article, Michelle's interview, for background information to this blog entry:

Examiner article

Michelle's story is really inspirational to me. I'm in the same boat and I'm hoping 6 years from now I'll be feeling confident and I'll be happy with my career transition. I love writing and creating art and I'm hopeful it will support my lifestyle and I'll be able to consider it a career!

She is actually offering dinner massages in the Toledo area. She and another Massage Therapist, along with a chef, go into peoples home and massage (the couple) while the chef prepares their meal. They've developed a pretty cool package!

Michelle is genuinely serving others needs and helping spread good health and happiness. We need more people on the earth like her! If you would like to contact her, drop me a note at Lifetimeartimpression@yahoo.com and I'll forward it accordingly!

Friday, November 13, 2009

The holistic powers of touch

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Examiner article

I grew up in a family that really didn't communicate love by hugging or verbalizing it, although we knew we were loved, it wasn't physically demonstrated. I've made an effort to love my kids not only with my words but by physically hugging them every chance I got. It used to be often when they were little, but now as teenagers, I have to pretty much pummel them; they are not very receptive of it:( I'm hopeful I've instilled the importance of touch into their hearts and they'll pass it forward as they mature into adults I'm proud of!

Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Are you comfortable in your skin, continued..

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Examiner article

For the most part I have been comfortable in my skin and confident in my abilities. I really do believe I am a survivor, a successful person who can handle (maybe not the most appropriate way at times) just about anything that comes my way. It doesn't mean I don't struggle before I find my path forward, it just means I recognize the challenge and figure out a solution before it gets the best of me! Really, if we can't count on ourselves, who can we really count on?

Sunday, November 8, 2009

Living a Life Imprisoned by Dementia



Click the below link to my Examiner article, Patty's interview, for background information to this blog entry:

Examiner article

I was touched when my friend Jude suggested I meet Patty to learn and share some of her insights. She is such an extraordinary woman; I struggled with the Examiner's 200 - 400 word limit for this article. I could have written so much more. Patty was her Mothers main support during her struggle with Dementia. She had forgotten she served this role; her eyes welled up when Jude reminded her. Patty is a very sensitive, loving, intelligent person who lives to laugh. She told me her job now was to help make other people happy when they're feeling sad. Patty couldn't remember if she had gone to church in her previous adult life but she was sure she had lived her life genuinely helping others whenever possible. This is apparent when I learned of her family support. Her ex-husband, John (Jude's brother), welcomed her into his home and took care of her for 3 years (15 years after their divorce) and he continues to actively participates as a loving caregiver. She lives with her son, Jesse, and his wife, Molly in their home and her daughter, Olivia, is also a strong support for her. Jude, along with others in Patty's circle of love contributes much loving care by sharing precious time with her built into Patty's weekly schedule. Jude kissed Patty’s forehead several times during the interview when her emotions surfaced as she shared her story. Patty told me there was a time when she thought she didn't have any people but she knew now that she was wrong. She communicated she had a lot of thanking to do. I replied by reminding her that the people, in her life today, are a testament of the love she shared and I'm sure they are thanked everyday when they see her smile and hear her laugh! I'm so grateful for the opportunity to meet Patty Wilson!

Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Healing power of laughter Article Continued

My wit was gifted to me by my Father who kept us laughing through a financially strained childhood. My parents did the best they could and I recognize this, understanding my upbringing made me the person I am today. Humor has offered comfort to me during the most stressful and sometimes inappropriate times. I can't think of a better way to detox than shedding tears of joy. I'm so grateful for the times I've lost my composure to uncontrollable bouts of laughter. I wish this for everyone. This is the type of "epidemic" the world could benefit from; help me spread the power of laughter!

Monday, November 2, 2009

Circle of Love Article Continued

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Examiner article

I feel extremely lucky to have such a wonderful support system in my life. I do not consider myself a “needy” or “high maintenance” person and maybe this is why I have people who will swoop in to help me in my time of need. I try really hard to give back to my community and help others when possible. Maybe karma takes a part in gifting me with this love!

Thursday, October 29, 2009

Words of survival

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Examiner article

I hope you've read my article and it touches you as the experience has touched me. I was even more amazed by Louella's strength as the interview educated me even more of her life filled with such hardship. She feels her journey, thus far, has been filled with more good than bad. Of course, this glass half full perspective is the foundation of her world. Louella is truly grateful for the time she has had on this earth and I'm fortunate to have moved next to such a great neighbor. I can only hope some of her wonderful characteristics rub off on me!

Monday, October 26, 2009

Surviving a sudden life hardship

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Examiner article

I have overcome many hardships in my life. I am a survivor grateful for my journey so far. This month is my 1 year job loss anniversary. I don’t even remember the colors last fall. I walked around like a zombie, numb at first, and then later my emotions turned into anger and hurt. After the initial impact, I was eventually able to free my feelings, embrace the situation and find my silver lining. Suddenly I had a flexible schedule enabling me to explore my artistic inspirations by marketing my drawings and writings. Today, I’m grateful for the opportunity. I trust myself, I have faith my new career will generate enough income to support my needs and because of this, I’m a much happier person!

Saturday, October 24, 2009

Grounding Your Anxiety with Nature

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Examiner article

My 1st article posted Friday on the Examiner.com. Follow the side link to read and then continue to read below to see how I used nature this week to help melt away my anxiety!

This past week I've started driving with my son, Jeremy. He is 14 yrs. 9 months and he just received his phase 1 driving permit. I'm really thankful this is taking place in the Fall. I am extremely anxious getting into the vehicle with him! He is really doing great but his inexperience scares me. He ran out to my vehicle with permit in hand, the 1st day it was legal, asking, "Can I drive us home from Driver's Ed today, Mom?" I tried to swallow the lump in my throat, pulled to the side and slowly moved to the passenger seat. My uneasiness soon started to dissipate as we drove through the Michigan Fall colored landscapes. It wasn't long before he was pulling into our driveway safe and sound! I was physically present with him but I certainly appreciated the beauty surrounding us and I was able to pacify myself using it as a security blanket!

Wednesday, October 21, 2009

The First Day of the Rest of My Life

This week has been pinnacle to my 1 year anniversary launch to enable me to live my life-long dreams; transitioning a successful business career into a career of an artist and writer. I've learned so much through the trials and tribulations of my very active life and, I know, I am still just a young life student and I'm loving every minute of it! I launched my website, http://www.lifetimeartimpression.com Jan of this year and to date, I have had over 3000 visitors. This validates my efforts in marketing continue to be affective. YEAH! My book, What Can I Say When Words Escape Me? (Being present for others in their times of sorrow) will be coming to the market November, 2009 and I've submitted my 1st article as a Healthy Living Writer for the Examiner Detroit Market today. It is pending approval before the live post! This is my newest forum to reach people in need. I'm excited to explore and learn in this crazy virtual world filled with such opportunity. God Bless and may my feelings of joy fill your heart with hopeful reflections in your lives!!!